Who Needs Therapy and Who Does Not

How do you know it's time to go to therapy? Let's cover some essentials first. Starting therapy is not an admission that you're broken, hopeless, or waiving some kind of white flag about your ability to handle your problems on your own. It's the realization that the way you're handling things isn't working.

 As a former therapist, I'm not afraid to admit that the culture often misunderstands therapy. For half, therapy is a shameful admission of defeat and dysfunction. For the other half, therapy is needed to make every small decision or work through every interaction they've had during the day. In reality, therapy is neither. Instead, it’s a valuable tool that has its place in a person's life.

Does Everyone Need Therapy?

No, not everyone needs to participate in therapy to be mentally and emotionally balanced or work out their problems. If you're someone who is thinking about therapy because you simply want "someone to talk to" about your problems, you may be better served by investing your time in finding a peer group. You might also benefit from support groups that offer a more unstructured form of communicating and connecting. For example, people struggling with grief greatly benefit from having a support group. 

If you're considering therapy because you want to get in a specific mindset to meet a goal, a life coach could be a better option. People sometimes seek therapy because they believe that getting over certain mental blocks could help them achieve goals. While breakthroughs in therapy do often translate to breakthroughs in life simply because you know yourself better, life coaching can be more appropriate if you're simply looking for someone to help you build a life plan that's focused more on creating a blueprint instead of addressing deep wounds that are creating self-sabotaging behaviors.

Who Needs Therapy?

 It's important not to overlook the signs when you could truly benefit from therapy. There's no concrete rule for when someone needs to see a therapist. It's not a matter of things getting "bad enough." However, the time to see a therapist is when any type of mental or emotional struggle is affecting your ability to function in daily life. For many people, therapy is necessary to manage an ongoing mental health issue. For example, you may be struggling with depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), or phobias. Therapy can help you better manage these issues. 

People sometimes seek out therapy to help them get through "seasons." This is something I fully support. For example, you may need help getting through a life challenge following a breakup, the death of a parent or loved one, a serious illness, or a job transition. Of course, couples counseling is an important resource that may need to be used at certain points of a relationship when communication is breaking down. 

I can't provide you with a definitive list of circumstances where a person needs to get to therapy. However, there are some pretty clear signs that your mental health is taking a nosedive. You should strongly consider therapy if you're  dealing with any of the following: 

●     Persistent unbalanced mood or behavior changes

●     Difficulty sleeping or changes to your sleep pattern

●     Inability to control emotions

●     Changes to your eating patterns

●     Difficulties at work or school because of a problem you're facing

●     Apathy and loss of interest in the activities you once loved

●     Trouble with relationships

●     Thoughts of self-harm

●     Feelings of being overwhelmed that are making it hard to cope with your daily tasks

●     Feelings of being so stressed and overwhelmed that you cannot breathe property or sit down to rest

●     Struggling to get out of bed in the morning

●     Feelings of anger, rage, and resentment that won't go away

●     Hopelessness and loss of motivation

●     Social withdrawal that keeps you isolated from the family and friends you love

●     Panic attacks

Therapy should be considered if any of the above issues are significantly impacting your daily functioning. For instance, if you are getting in constant arguments with your spouse due to your lack of motivation, then it’s time to consider counseling.

Final Thoughts 

Therapy can be a wonderful thing for those who need it! It can save relationships, help us let go of life seasons we've outgrown, and empower us to know ourselves better. However, the fact is that therapy isn't a magic wand that can solve problems that are outside the scope of your mental and emotional health.

As someone who has worked in mental health, my hope is that you can see therapy as the useful and life-saving tool that it was meant to be without assuming that you don't have the power to take ownership of your life without counseling.