How to Stop Overthinking: 5 strategies for reducing rumination

“Did that comment make me sound stupid?” “Why is my friend not getting back to me?” “What if my partner is losing interest?” We overthinkers know the drill. We worry about minor details and worst-case scenarios, read into the behaviors of others, and repeatedly rehash our own mistakes. 

Also called rumination, overthinking is characterized by repetitive, unproductive thinking that is hard to control. Annoying, time-consuming, and exhausting, overthinking is also a risk factor for anxiety and depression (Michl, et. al., 2013).

It’s natural to try to solve life’s problems by thinking of potential solutions. The trouble with overthinking is that it often focuses on things we can’t control, such as past mistakes and other people’s behavior.

How can you tell if you are overthinking?

Here are some common signs: 

●     It’s hard to think about anything else.

●     Instead of having new thoughts, you find yourself rehashing the same thoughts over and over again.

●     You find yourself stuck on negative thought patterns.

●     You second guess yourself.

●     It feels like your brain won’t “shut off.”

Fortunately, there are strategies to help you stop overthinking. While not every strategy will work for everyone, I have found the following to be the most consistently helpful with my patients:

Schedule your overthinking

If you’ve ever tried to stop yourself from overthinking, you know that it often has the opposite effect. Instead of banning overthinking entirely, try postponing it to a specific time and place. Set a timer for 15-20 minutes and let your ruminating mind run wild! When the timer goes off, move on to another activity.

Make use of distractions

We often think of distractions as negative, but distractions can help break the cycle of overthinking. Watch a funny video, listen to an engaging podcast, or talk to a friend or coworker. Go for a walk around the neighborhood or do a Sudoku puzzle. The more mentally demanding the activity, the better!

Challenge negative thoughts with facts

Our brains can trick us into believing all sorts of unfounded things. The next time you find yourself overthinking a situation, ask yourself if there is any factual basis for your thoughts. What are the facts, and what are your feelings and assumptions? By examining the situation objectively, you can counter negative thought patterns with more realistic perspectives.

Write it out

Writing down your thoughts and feelings can help you identify negative thought patterns and gain new perspectives. Again, try setting a timer for 15-20 minutes. Try to record your stream-of-consciousness versus getting caught up in proper grammar, spelling, etc. If you find that you are judging your thoughts and emotions, record those judgmental thoughts, then counter them with self-compassion.

Try a little self-compassion

Have you ever noticed that we tend to be our own worst critics? We “say” things to ourselves that we would never say to someone else. Overthinking often includes some degree of self-criticism as we berate ourselves for mistakes and imperfections. Self-compassion helps us reduce the tendency to self-criticize and overthink (Neff, et. al, 2007). The next time you notice that you are overthinking, consider what you would say to a friend in your situation. Then, direct these compassionate words towards yourself! 

Conclusion

Overthinking can be a hard habit to break, but with practice and patience, you can reduce the time you spend rehashing mistakes or worrying about worst-case scenarios. Used consistently, the above strategies can help you effectively manage your overthinking and improve your mental well-being.

 If you need additional help, consider contacting a mental health professional who can provide additional tools, techniques, and insights.

References:

Michl, L.C., McLaughlin, K.A., Shepherd, K., and Nolen-Hoeksema, S. “Rumination as a mechanism linking stressful life events to symptoms of depression and anxiety: Longitudinal evidence in early adolescents and adults.” Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 122(2), 2013.

Neff, Kristin D., Kirkpatrick, Kristin L., and Rude, Stephanie S. “Self-compassion and adaptive psychological functioning.” Journal of Research in Personality, 41(1), 2007.