Coping with Holiday Stress

Autumn is well underway, and for millions of people, it’s time to think about the end-of-the-year holidays. Although these festive times can be fun, they’re sometimes a source of anxiety. The American Psychological Association’s latest survey from 2023 indicates that about 41 percent of US adults experience enough stress to interfere with enjoying the holidays.

Holiday Depression

For those who live with depression or other psychological conditions, the holiday stress can aggravate those conditions. That’s because the pressure over the holidays can be tremendous and the stress it provokes is anything but merry.

Holiday Tension & Stress

The sources of holiday tension and stress include all the logistics of getting family together, shopping, expenses, cooking, and many situations unique to each merrymaker. The holidays can also generate loneliness and longing for times and people who have passed away.

This kind of year-end stress struck me as a brand-new counselor. I’d just finished my master’s degree, obtained my license, and snagged my dream job just a few weeks before Thanksgiving—perfect timing to celebrate and relax. I was no longer a flat-broke student; I even had money to spend this year.

And then all the deferred tension and anxiety that had been stuffed down for the prior three years got piled onto the adjustments from student to employee—an employee with no days off for the holidays banked yet. I’d be working through my first holidays as a gainfully employed person.

It seemed like no one close to me understood or sympathized with the anxiety I was feeling. In the eyes of my family, Christmas was coming and I had to be happy because that’s what people are supposed to feel at that time of year. I relaxed only after the holidays were over.

From that experience, I picked up a few holiday stress management techniques you may find useful:

- Manage Expectations
Keep your expectations realistic and don’t set yourself up for disappointment. When it comes to how much you want to take on, stay grounded. Don’t let your wishes exceed your time, money, and peace of mind.

- Learn to Say No
Learning to say no helps you avoid overcommitting yourself, prevents overspending, and helps your boundaries remain intact.

- Set Boundaries and Make Them Stick
Build some limits that work for you. A boundary doesn’t have to be more complex than letting someone know what you will and won’t do.

- Take Care of Yourself
Try to get at least seven to eight hours of sleep a night and be kind to your body. It’s easy to eat and drink too much during the holidays—it’s practically expected! However, relying on alcohol or food for mood improvement can backfire. Although there’s no need to be stingy with holiday treats, avoid excessive consumption.

- Create New Traditions
When things change, like family or friends moving too far away to visit, making new traditions can give you something to look forward to.

Conclusion

The holidays are a source of fun and celebration, but there’s a risk of stress and anxiety getting in the way of good cheer. Remember to take good care of yourself, keep it real with expectations, stay open-minded about new experiences, and make sure to set boundaries to reduce your tension and anxiety during the holiday season.         

References

https://www.nami.org/press-releases/mental-health-and-the-holiday-blues/

https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2023/11/holiday-season-stress#